Non-Binary Names

As self-expression and self-identity become more mainstream concepts, some parents may feel interested in giving their children non-binary or gender-neutral names. Additionally, young adult and adult individuals who identify as non-binary may wish to change their name to reflect their personality more accurately.

Non-binary names have little to no gender associations or connotations. Gender-neutral names are similar to non-binary names. Non-binary and unisex names are often locations, surnames, items, colors, alternative spellings, or animals. Fox, Orlando, Gray, and Addison are excellent examples.

Understanding the differences between non-binary names and unisex ones could help you choose the perfect name for yourself or your child. Naturally, it’s also crucial to consider the positive and negative aspects of these types of names. This article will explore both of these topics, and we’ll also delve into some of the best, coolest, and cutest non-binary names.

What Is a Non-Binary Name?

A non-binary name is any name without specific male or female connotations and associations. Because non-binary names carry no traditional gender biases, they’re often muddled together with unisex, genderfluid, and gender-neutral names. 

However, there is at least one significant difference among these terms. Namely, non-binary first names are often chosen and not given.

Non-Binary Names vs. Unisex Names

There seems to be quite a great deal of confusion surrounding the difference between non-binary names and unisex names. Other terms, like genderfluid or gender-neutral, are also used interchangeably when discussing non-binary names. 

This kind of usage can make it nearly impossible to determine a precise definition for each term. Still, some small-yet-significant differences could help you use each expression with more precision and respect.

Read more: 28 Unisex Baby Names (+426 More)

Similarities

All of the above terms are quite similar, and people often exchange them for one another in conversation. Generally, the terms non-binary, genderfluid, unisex, and gender-neutral refer to an absence of traditional male-female roles and traits. 

When it applies to names, these terms denote given names that don’t have any specific or long-held association with either male or female genders. However, unisex and non-binary are two very different terms with startlingly different connotations.

Differences

Unisex (literally, “one sex”) names refer to names that lack specific cultural gender connotations. The use of traditional surnames as first names, for example, is one such case of unisex naming. 

Non-binary refers to genders that don’t ascribe to traditional male or female values, roles, and rituals. Individuals who self-identify as non-binary may have been given a gendered name at birth but choose to change their name upon entering adulthood. Their given name then becomes their “dead name.”

Genderfluid and gender-neutral have nearly the same meaning. Both terms are commonly used by expecting parents looking to assign their child a unisex name. Consequently, unisex, genderfluid, and gender-neutral are typically terms that parents use when describing a baby’s name.

Non-binary is a descriptive term applied to names that are usually chosen by teenagers and adults. An individual may self-identify as non-binary, and parents may raise their children in a gender-neutral way. 

Typically, the people who identify as non-binary are teenagers, young adults, or middle-aged adults. Children may also experience non-binary tendencies or propensities, though parents may not agree to a name change.

The Development of Non-Binary Names

The development of non-binary names is intrinsically linked to the development of a mainstream non-binary awareness. Accounts of individuals who felt neither genuinely male nor female go back throughout the centuries, but the terminology and societal trends have always been in a constant state of change.

Consequently, determining an exact history of non-binary identities within the human population can be challenging. Still, some records help to shine a light on this particular gender identity. 

Earliest Evidence of Non-Binary People

For as long as Western civilization has existed, there have been male-female gender roles and values. Many of these values continue to exist today, though the rules regarding them have changed substantially. 

For example, Mesopotamian culture was steadfastly patriarchal. The men were expected to be mighty, virile, and wise. The women were expected to be passive, mothering, and nurturing. However, these two options were not the only ones that existed in ancient times.

The Mesopotamians also believed in a third gender for feminine males. Additionally, they had specific words for others who fell outside of the traditional male-female gender norms, including a term for women who could not conceive or birth children. 

The idea of a “third gender” can be found throughout the ancient world. Many Native American tribes believed that two spirits possessed the tribespeople that didn’t fit into the male-female system. Consequently, these individuals were gifted with the identifier, Two-Spirit. 

Still, to fully comprehend contemporary perspectives on non-binary gender identity, we must skip forward in time and revisit the last century. After all, much of the non-binary awareness within mainstream culture has only come about within the last several decades.

Modern Non-Binary Identity

There’s been a lot of discussion concerning the changes in gender identity over the last several decades. While the 1970s through the late 2000s were a period of gay rights activism and mainstream acceptance, other forms of non-traditional sexual and gender expression were still fringe ideas.

However, there’s been a significant increase in young people identifying as non-binary or gender fluid since 2000. While this trend’s precise causes remain partially unknown, a societal push toward greater self-acceptance and awareness seems to be a prominent factor.

However, while gender-neutral names are becoming increasingly popular and prevalent, they pose some unique pros and cons. It’s crucial to consider every aspect of such names before selecting one.

Pros and Cons With a Non-Binary Name

There are quite a few positive and negative aspects of non-binary and genderfluid names. Names that are chosen by non-binary individuals show pride in their self-identity and self-awareness. Such chosen names are often a cause for celebration, as they mark a new milestone in a person’s life.

Gender-neutral names chosen by thoughtful parents are just as worthy of celebration as chosen names. However, both unique types of genderfluid first names can cause derision and tension. Equally, some names have less-than-stellar meanings and origins and should be avoided at all costs.

Let’s examine some of the most notable pros and cons of non-binary and gender-neutral names. Doing so may help you, or someone you know, avoid a significant name-related faux pas. 

Pros

• There are no burdensome gender norms to adhere to when you have a non-binary name. This means that children are better able to express themselves without feeling constricted by gender roles and norms.
• A chosen name is often a far more accurate representation of a person’s adult personality and character than their birth or given name. When a non-binary adult chooses their new name, it’s a time of celebration and rejoicing in one’s self-awareness.
• Parents that choose to give their child a gender-neutral name can feel proud of their decision. Being a good parent is far more than feeding, housing, and clothing your child. Allowing them the freedom to be themselves is true unconditional love.
• Non-binary names are becoming more common, but each one is unique. Children with genderfluid names or non-binary names often feel comfortable expressing their individuality and distinct point of view. This could help them feel more confident about themselves as they grow older.

Cons

• There is still some prejudice toward gender-neutral names and non-binary individuals. These names could single-out children and cause them to become victims of bullying at school. Bullying may lead to a name change in adulthood.

Antiquated Non-Binary Names

While the concept of non-binary gender identity may feel like a relatively new one, it’s not. As we discussed above, people who feel neither wholly male nor female have existed for thousands of years. 

Still, social acceptance of such individuals seems to wax and wane with time. When we examine some of the most popular baby names within the United States, we often see that most of these names are gendered (John, Johanna, Michael, Michelle). However, if you look closely, you’ll spot a few outliers.

Specific names have, throughout the years, changed their gender associations and connotations. Some have lost all sense of gender altogether thanks to literature, popular music, and a uniquely American sense of personal freedom and liberty. 

After all, many European and Asian countries enforce strict baby-naming policies that often include curated lists of pre-approved names. The United States’ citizens of the past and present don’t seem to be as keen to let the government choose their children’s names. 

When we study the “odd” non-gendered names of the past, we can see this trend in action. Some of the notable antiquated unisex names from bygone eras include:

• Scout
• Kelly
• Ashley
• Finley
• Charlie

Many of these names remain extremely popular today. Still, new genderless baby names tend to be slightly edgier and less traditionally-based than their older counterparts. However, as with most names in English-speaking countries, antiquated names often experience a comeback. 

Contemporary Non-Binary Names

Now that we’ve spied some vintage non-binary baby names, we can jump forward and discuss the qualities of contemporary non-binary names. Don’t worry. We’ll also reveal some of the best genderfluid and non-binary names currently in usage, but first, let’s talk about the commonalities found in unisex names.

Generally, non-binary names can be a little more creative and wild than gender-neutral names. Because non-binary names are often selected by adults wishing to represent themselves better, there’s often little regret or trauma associated with them. 

A non-binary individual’s chosen name is something they celebrate, not something they associate with childhood bullying. Consequently, some of the general rules and trends that apply to gender-neutral names don’t wholly apply to non-binary chosen names.

That said, gender-neutral names (and to a less extent, non-binary names) tend to fall into one of five categories. These categories are:

• Surnames
• Locations
• Objects
• Animals
• Alternative spellings
• Unisex options

Though we shall present numerous options throughout this guide, it’s crucial to learn how to discern gender-neutral names from gendered ones. That way, you can apply the information you’ve learned to any external searches you happen to perform. 

When you know what you’re looking for, it’s far easier to find and select unique, personally-satisfying first names. One of the more notable non-binary and genderfluid naming trends is the surname-switch.

Surnames

Many surnames, or last names, are now popping up as first names. That’s because the majority of surnames have no specific gender association. After all, a family could be both men and women, so having a gendered last name is a bit odd.

That said, many cultures have a long history of patronymic naming. This means that a person’s last name was at least partially derived from their father’s name. These systems typically featured masculine names. Of course, very few countries still adhere to this practice.

As time goes on, the once-masculine associations between specific patronymic surnames (Anderson, Addison, Ericson) weaken and decrease. That’s why it’s not uncommon to find a female Addison. Some surnames come from specific trades or occupations once undertaken by our ancient ancestors.

Last names like Potter, Mason, Thatcher, Weaver, and Baker are all occupational. Because they feature limited genderization, these last names are also becoming popular among non-binary adults and socially-aware parents. Of course, location-based names are also popular.

Locations

Location-based names are trendy and increasingly more gender-neutral. Some excellent examples of location-based names include:

• Essex
• Boston
• Denver
• Holland
• Memphis

While some location-based names do have gender associations, there are plenty that do not. While a location-based name might not be the most realistic option for a non-binary adult, it could be an excellent name for a child to grow into. 

Object-based names, on the other hand, are a bit trickier to incorporate and worth with. Still, that doesn’t mean that they’re not worth the time and effort.

Objects

When Gwyneth Paltrow announced that she would be naming her firstborn child Apple, like the fruit, the press went wild. It wasn’t the first time a celebrity had opted for a non-traditional name, but it was one of the only times a star had opted for an object-based name. 

Object-based names have become increasingly more popular over the last several decades. Similarly, adjective-based names (words that describe a noun, often an object) have seen a rise. Non-gendered names like Blue, Happy, Penny, Axel, and Gauge are fine examples of object-based and adjective-based first names.

If you’re interested in choosing one of these name types, be sure to let yourself sit with a potential decision before making it final. While you might adore the idea of going by Jett this week, you might change your mind next week. Allow yourself plenty of time to feel your new name out.

This rule applies to parents as well. Though it might feel silly, try walking around your home and shouting your prospective name. If it feels strange to call it out in the privacy of your home, you may want to move along to a different name. 

After all, you’ll likely need to holler for your child at some point in their life, so it’s a good idea to feel comfortable doing so. However, if the idea of having a child named Pea or Red doesn’t suit you, then you might want to consider an animal-based name.

Animals and Nature

Animal-based names can be rather hit-and-miss. Some names are awkward to use for an English-speaking child, and others do have some gender associations. The name Bear, for example, is a particularly masculine animal-based name. Alternatively, the name Byrd (or bird) tends to be more feminine.

Still, some gender-neutral animal-based names may catch your fancy. Some of the most popular include:

• Fox
• Sable
• Deryn
• Jay
• Everley
• Phoenix

Nature-based names are also popular options for non-binary adults and gender-neutral children. Names like River lack specific gender associations, though some names (Forrest, Meadow) still have male-female connotations. 

Still, one of the best ways to enjoy more gender-neutral names is to begin using traditionally male names when naming females and vice versa. To break down the gendered associations, we must continue to use names in whatever ways feel correct, regardless of a name’s past. 

Ashley, for example, was once used primarily for boys. Thanks to some strange naming trends, it was once mainly associated with feminine traits and qualities. Nowadays, this complex history lends it well to any type of gender—or spelling, for that matter!

Alternative Spellings

This category is often a contentious one. On the one hand, unique spellings of traditional names add some flair and personality to an otherwise common first name. On the other hand, alternative spellings can be overly complicated, confusing, and downright odd.

Some alternative spellings could garner criticism from other parents or children. For example, a child named Ashleigh might be called “ash-lay” by their peers. Their teachers may struggle to spell their name correctly. Even worse, other parents may have had a similar idea and decided to name their child Ashleigh as well, eliminating the uniqueness factor.

Alternative spellings should be treated with caution. At best, they’re an excellent way for discerning non-binary adults to express themselves. 

At worst, they’re a child’s worst nightmare. You may want to think twice before adopting the name Jaxon. Middle-school boys are sure to chant, “Jax-on, Jax-” Well, you get the picture.

Unisex Options

Remember those antiquated non-binary names? Those types of unisex names are often a popular option among non-binary adults and parents hoping to give a genderfluid name. 

First names like Ashley, Kennedy, Scout, and Charlie all have a traditional ring to them, but they’re free of specific gender associations. Interestingly, a unisex name might be one of the better options for an adult who is non-binary. Many surnames qualify as unisex. 

However, names based on locations, colors, or items may be too childish for adults. Consequently, a unisex name could be the ideal solution. If you’re looking for some inspiration concerning unisex names, you may want to check out one of the many unisex name lists that focuses on gender-neutral first names.

Cute Non-Binary Names

A cute name is any first name that makes you want to say, “Aw,” every time you hear it. A cute name can be challenging to select, as parents will want to choose a name that ages well with their child. Equally, adults will want to choose a name that doesn’t make them sound like an infant or adoring tot. 

Some primary examples of potentially cute non-binary names are:

• Campbell
• Rowan
• Bailey
• Sawyer
• Avery

Naturally, what is considered cute varies from person to person. Personal experience and preference can help you select the genderfluid names that bring the warmest and fuzziest feelings to your heart. 

The same is true of cool gender-neutral names. What may be cool to one person could be awful to another. Still, there are some general rules when it comes to cool first names.

Cool Non-Binary Names

What is a cool first name? In many cases, it’s a name that sounds sharp, daring, or rebellious. Names associated with cool musicians, writers, or artists tend to be cool names themselves. Additionally, some of the coolest names can also be the most controversial.

Naming a child Marx, for example, might be pretty cool. However, it might also annoy or upset those who are highly antagonistic against the concepts of communism and socialism. That’s because the name is often associated with Karl Marx, the author of The Communist Manifesto. 

A socially-acceptable, cool non-binary name will attempt to avoid any negative connotations. Some popular cool names include:

• West
• Skye
• Roux
• Fox
• Lennon

As you can see, these names are a mix of animal-based, directional-based, food-based, and musician-based titles. While the name Lennon could be somewhat controversial due to its similarity to Lenin, it is mainly associated with the musician John Lennon. The spelling helps to reinforce this connection.

However, any gender-neutral name can be cool. The thing that makes a name cool is the person who gladly sports it, not the letters themselves. If you’re choosing a cool name for yourself, be sure to wear that name proudly, and if you’re choosing a cool name for your child, be sure to let them know that they’re the coolest kid around.

Top 10 Non-Binary Names in the US

At the end of each year, the Social Security Administration releases a list of the most popular baby names for that year. While many of the most popular names are gendered (Liam, Olivia), many are gender-neutral. 

You’d need to scour the list to find the outlying genderfluid names, but they are present. Fortunately, we decided to put in the effort and energy to discover the most popular non-binary, unisex names of the most recent years. In order of popularity, they are:

1. Harper
2. Avery
3. Riley
4. Gray
5. Hazel
6. Theo
7. Dylan
8. Asher
9. Everly
10. Addison

While some of these names still have male-female associations, such associations have declined for many years. Consequently, each of these names belongs to several male, female, and non-binary children throughout the United States.

Many of these popular names are derived from Latin, Old English, German, or Irish titles. Their meanings vary greatly, and parents must dig into each name’s precise meaning before selecting a final one. Adults looking to change their name should also complete this process.

The name Harper, for example, seems to originate from the British Isles and Ireland. It means “one who plays the harp.” Consequently, this name is inoffensive and gender-neutral. The name Avery most nearly translates to “elf king,” which is a whimsical name.

The name Asher just means “living by the ash trees,” and the name Addison simply translates to “son of Adam.” In many religions, Adam (or Askr, Lullu, Adamah) is the first man ever to walk the earth. In this sense, all modern humans could be considered descendants of Adam. Therefore, Addison, despite its literal translation, is also a gender-neutral name.

What about the non-binary names throughout the world? While some countries do have relatively harsh naming policies, it is possible to find international non-binary names. Still, if you’re planning on taking this route, it’s vital to be culturally sensitive and research each name’s meaning.

Non-Binary Names in the World

When looking at the many different non-binary names found throughout the world, you may begin to see a trend. Nations with a mostly Catholic or Muslim population tend to exhibit strict rules concerning naming. 

One notable exception to this unwritten rule is Iceland. The government of Iceland requires parents to choose a name from a prearranged list. Non-binary Icelandic citizens hoping to change their name and gender may also struggle to do so, though laws are quickly changing in favor of non-binary individuals. 

Interestingly, most non-binary international names seem to come from India, Indonesia, China, and Russia. These names include ones like:

• Bodhi
• Bao
• Henny
• Dominique
• Mischa

While the majority of European countries are beginning to relax their naming rules and regulations, countries like Italy still enforce a heavily two-gender, male-female naming system. Scandinavian nations, known for their long history of patronymic naming, struggle to adapt to unisex names. 

As always, there are exceptions to these statements. There is a massive movement toward making the third gender (non-binary) legal and socially acceptable in Germany and Switzerland. Naturally, such change will require consistent education, support, and plenty of time.

Conclusion

An individual who is non-binary doesn’t subscribe to traditional male-female gender beliefs and identities. They may consider themselves neither fully male nor entirely female. Names that reflect this sense of identity are often unisex or genderless.

Some of the most popular non-binary names in the United States include Harper, Avery, Riley, Gray, and Hazel. International communities have different naming and gender policies, but there are also many non-English non-binary names worldwide.